When did you get that first feeling that your wife wanted a divorce?

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  1. Mo Betta

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    It gets better Bro.....Your hair may fall out, but you 'll make itLOL
     
  2. eddier68

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    This actually IS true - it was in the local newspaper and even
    Jay Leno mentioned it! Only in South Carolina!!
    Below is a true story about a recent wedding that took place
    at Clemson University:
    This was a huge wedding with about 300 guests. After the wedd
    ing, at the reception, the groom got up on stage at the micro
    phone to talk to the crowd. He said that he wanted to thank
    everyone for coming, many from long distances, to support them
    at their wedding. He especially wanted to thank the bride's and
    groom's families for coming and to thank his new father-in-law
    for providing such a fabulous reception.
    To thank everyone for coming and bringing gifts and everything,
    he said he wanted to give everyone a special gift from just him.
    So taped to the bottom of everyone's chair, including the
    wedding party, was a manila envelope. He said that this was his
    gift to everyone, and told everyone to open the envelopes.
    Inside each manila envelope was an 8x10 picture of his best man
    having sex with the bride.
    He had gotten suspicious of the two of them and hired a private
    detective to trail them weeks prior to the wedding. After he
    stood there and watched the people's reactions for a couple of
    minutes, he turned to the best man and said "F--- you", he turned
    to the bride and said "F--- you", and then he turned to the
    dumbfounded crowd and said "I'm out of here."
    He had the marriage annulled first thing that Monday morning.
    While most of us would have broken off the engagement immediately
    after finding out about the affair, this guy goes through with it
    anyway as if nothing was wrong.
    His revenge: Making the bride's parents pay over $32,000 for a 300
    guest wedding and reception. Letting everyone know exactly what
    did happen. And best of all, trashing the bride's and best man's
    reputations in front of all of their friends, their entire families,
    i.e. their parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents, nieces and
    nephews, etc.
    This guy has balls the size of church bells.
    This is his world, we just live in it.
     
  3. Mots

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    No shit, sorry to hear that. As kurt said, get an attorney or you will get fucked over hard. Chicks are the most evil species on the planet!
     
  4. PFflyer

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    You Rox!
    Great recipes!
    and
    Great life advice!
    Got 30 yrs this Nov.
    and if ever comes to an end - I'm DONE!
     
  5. bocker

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    Damn dude this sucks. I just went through the same thing last year. The ex and I decided to go through a paralegal and were able to keep things amicable. My divorce cost $1200.00 We split everything 50/50... I bought her out on the house. The crappy part is that we have 3 kids. The good part is that we are better friends now that we are divorced. Seems like every divorced person I talk to, who got lawyers involved, are bitter enemies and the ones who did not involve lawyers in their divorce remain friends. In my opinion a solid friendship, or any type of friendship for that matter, is way healthier for the kids. Lawyers want you to fight fight fight. The more you can't see eye to eye on, the more money they get. They want nothing more than to take everything you and your wife have worked for over the past 22 years.

    My one recommendation tho is to document everything... especially if you do go through a paralegal. You never know, she could have a change of heart and decide to get a lawyer behind your back... just be prepared. When you do go through a paralegal and it is all said and done, it is final just like you went through the court system with expensive lawyers. BUT any case can be reopened when there are kids involved... and that would be a good time to get a lawyer. THINK before you act... and try to talk out as much of it as you can no matter how pissed you are at her.

    Maybe my case was rare... and I will probably get flamed for my response but it IS possible to do this amicably and NOT involve lawyers.

    Just my .02


    Stay strong.
    Chris
     
  6. Fog Ducker

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    I have resumes out to all of the overseas contractors, we'll see what happens.
     
  7. Fog Ducker

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    Thanks guys and gals for all of the support, I knew I would hear some war stories and learn from them. Its only been a few weeks since she told me but so far things have gotten better for all of us.

    The kids are #1, for both of us so I know she will not bring home an"Uncle Asshole", so all you BDers stay away from her. So far they are happier now than before the news, I think that there was so much hostility built up that it infected everything that we did together, now that its out in the open its taken a weight off. Im spending more time with my kids and can see a positive change in their attitudes.

    I feel that we will still be friends after this is finalized. What it came down to wasn't adultery, physical abuse, drugs or alcohol it was that we had NOTHING in common. All of the fun stuff that we did while dating (motorcycle rides, camping etc) was her way of "getting" a husband. And I fell for it because I wanted to "be" with her and we were pretty religious back then so we both fell for it. Then we had kids so it was pretty much just staying together for the kids but if everyone is miserable what good does it do anyone?

    Anyhow its going to be for the better, we will do everything by the book, I'm not taking her for anything and visa versa but we will have a lawyer look over the final papers. I'm going to look into a mediator for us mainly because I HATE GIVING ONE F'N DOLLAR TO A F'N LAWYER.
     
  8. gordogringo

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    You need Donna Mallen, downtown San Diego. She was my ex's lawyer, kicked my ass 3 times when she shouldn't have. This lawyer is good, very good......I have sent her at least 100 clients, at least....

    Quit being her friend, go for your best interest and stop boning her so you can get over that pussy if you haven't already....

    Call Donna, doesn't cost too much and she kicks ass!!!
     
  9. gordogringo

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    P.S. Now I have full custody and a stay away order and am supposed to be getting 300 a month support. I was never late, always paid and did more than I should have after medical, etc....I haven't seen a dime and I can't even hire the damn lawyer I recommend, conflict of interest......divorce sucks...
     
  10. The Notorious S.U.A

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    start slipping meth into her food, then tell the judge she's a fucking junkie dirtbag and she'll pop on the test.
    problem solved.
     
  11. peto

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    Devious one!
     
  12. Fog Ducker

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    I started doing that a week ago
     
  13. http404

    http404 Dyslexics Untie!

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    He should write a book.
     
  14. SeaDawg

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    :rofl:
     
  15. johnnylite

    johnnylite Never too late to change.

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    Thought I cleaned that up. LOL
     
  16. @-EZ

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    Sometimes you have to make the decision of whether you want to spend the rest of your life miserable with the one your with or just stop the madness and move on.

    This is what I read your/her decision is/was.

    Take note that all the reply's you've received thus far have all had the same denominator.....Time...

    Protect yourself but don't do anything that will affect the children. Watch your bank accounts but don't drain them as it will come back to haunt you sometime down the road.

    Make sound mental decisions and don't let emotion cloud your thoughts.

    It is hard, but with open communication, you both will prevail.
     
  17. Az.monkey

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    Shit ! I think we have a winner here.
    No reason to be nasty, handle it in a friendly fashion and life will be better for all involved, including the kids.
    Nice work Max !
     
  18. the hook

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    Cheaper to keep her.

    Sorry for your pain.
     
  19. MikeyLikesIt

    MikeyLikesIt did you say F I S H I N G ???

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    Daaaaamn, thats evil! LOL




    Note**** Make sure to give SUA a reacharound. :nutkick:
     
  20. The Notorious S.U.A

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    want some cookies mikey?
     
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